Taking a look at yourself and make that change
January 29th, 2010![]()
I hate new years resolutions. I guess that I perceive them to be a stressful opportunity for failure if I dont meet my standards. And then I end up trying to convince myself that its ok I didnt meet them. And yes, we see a pattern folks, another ridiculous reason for tossing and turning in bed. Instead I like to pick themes after I see how the year kicks off. Not only do themes allow me to keep it under wraps but I dont have to be as specific - most likely so I cant be called out when in violation.
Like, last year, my theme was “be nice to people.” Uh, yeah. Not sure if it worked but I really did try! Now its time for a new theme [insert drum roll here] “decrease life stress.” Because sometimes I seriously need to chill the eff out. And because I am now a student/ mom/ wife/ employee, I foresee a need to be preventive. Since I was raised with a strong appreciation of German efficiency, I have made a list of some ways to effectively make my theme a reality:
1- See my friends more and get out of my house after 8pm more often. Sad but true: I really dont know the San Francisco nightlife. After having lived here for 6 years, that is just embarrassing and ridiculous even if I am a mom. Also, this could mean more brunches and lunches and just regular ole’ girls and a bottle of wine time.
2- Spend quality time with my husband without the kids around. I have heard that its good relationships to spend time alone and to do things together that are fun. I think I’ll try it more than 3 times a year and see if what they say is right.
3- Ask for help and take people up on their offers while still good. Especially since there is no family nearby, ask before losing my mind and breaking down while washing dishes or taking it out on Mr H.
4-Take care of myself and actually do it instead of pining and whining. Get a massage if my back hurts. Keep going to dance classes at least once a week (ideally twice). Allow myself time to study and not try to do something else at the same time.
I guess this is a proclamation that I am now trying to work on this. Yikes. Fingers crossed that it works, but it all sounds pretty great to me.





